Ask Kevin: Is My Bridal Party Too Big?

October 25, 2013

Ask Kevin

Hi Kevin,

I have 3 sisters and tons of friends from college that I want to include in my wedding, but I feel like  my bridal party is going to be huge! How do I know if my bridal party is too big?


Jordyn Woods

Dublin, CA



Hi Jordyn,

Thank you so much for your question! I know this is a common problem many brides face, so I am happy to help! It is hard to limit the number of your friends you ask to be in your bridal party, but keep in mind that the larger the group, the more work it will be for you. Remember, you’ll need to budget for transportation and flowers, maybe even hair and makeup, for each bridesmaid as well as boutonnieres for the groomsmen. Coordinating a large group may add unnecessary stress to your wedding planning, so many couples find it easier to keep the number of attendants small, averaging 6 attendants on each side.

Also, just because  you can’t have every single friend in your wedding doesn’t mean that they won’t be involved in the wedding! For example, someone can take charge of the guest book,  perform a song, or do a reading during the ceremony. And let’s not forget the bachelorette party and rehearsal dinners! Those are perfect opportunities to include friends and family members that are not members of the bridal party.

I hope this was helpful! Picking your bridal party can be stressful, but just remember- your friends and family are so happy for you and will love and support you no matter what!

– Kevin