Fantasy Sound Event Services is back with our monthly blog series, Seven with Kevin! This month, we wanted to dive into something that we see all too often… overthinking. Are you getting to a point in wedding planning where every decision feels heavy, and even the most minor details begin to cause you stress? If so, you could be losing sight of what this whole process is really about.
Kevin has broken down seven signs that you may be overthinking your wedding, and shares a few reminders to help you slow down, trust your choices, and enjoy the planning a little more. Let’s dive in!
1. You’re Making Every Decision Twice
One of the earliest and most obvious signs of overthinking is revisiting choices that you already made. Specifically, choices that were already made with confidence. Perhaps you booked a vendor you really loved, chose a theme that felt right, or finalized your day-of timeline – only to start questioning it later. This can happen after you let outside opinions creep in, or you begin to compare your plans to someone else’s.
Here is what Kevin wants you to know: if a decision felt right when you made it, it likely still is. Overthinking can shake your confidence a bit, but it doesn’t mean you made the wrong choice. Trust the process! Trust the reasons behind your choices! Confidence will not come from constantly reevaluating your choices; it comes from moving forward.
2. You Can’t Stop Imagining Worst Case Scenario
First off, Kevin wants to clarify that it is absolutely normal to think through a backup plan or two, especially when you’re planning a large event with many moving parts. But when your mind keeps jumping to the worst-case scenario, you’re probably overthinking. This unnecessary stress is causing you to think through five imaginary scenarios instead of the real one that’s actually happening.
Kevin wants to bring you back to earth for a moment and remind you that thousands of weddings happen every single day! The vast majority of these weddings go off without a hitch. The professionals you put your trust in will solve any potential problems before you even notice them. One solid backup plan is plenty. So take a deep breath, trust your team, and your day will unfold beautifully.
3. You’re Losing Sleep Over The Small Details
Are the small details keeping you up at night? If you’re stressed about choosing the napkin color, what font to pick for the menu, or which signature cocktail represents you best, it’s time to take a step back and reframe. We understand that in the heat of wedding planning, these kinds of details can feel far more important than they actually are. This kind of overthinking is a sign that your focus has shifted away from the bigger picture.
Kevin does feel that while the small details play a role in the overall look and feel of your day, they’re not what your guests will remember most, or what your wedding day truly represents. This day is about celebrating your love and the people who showed up to support you. If a detail starts to feel more exhausting than exciting… it may be time to remind yourself why you’re planning this celebration in the first place.
4. You’re Trying To Please Everyone
Kevin feels this point is going to hit all you people pleasers out there. One of the fastest routes to feeling overwhelmed during wedding planning is trying to make everyone happy. Kevin’s advice: It’s impossible! Parents, friends, and family often have strong opinions, either from a traditional or religious standpoint or even what they learned at their own wedding. Talking to your fiancé beforehand and establishing your priorities and non-negotiables can make it a little easier to navigate these opinions while planning. It’s absolutely okay to pick your battles and give loved ones a “win” here and there, but your wedding day cannot be built entirely around everyone else’s preferences.
Kevin may sound like a broken record, but your wedding should reflect you as a couple! This is your day, and planning a wedding can sometimes be the first test of navigating decision-making together, setting boundaries with family, and choosing what matters most to you as a couple. Focus on what feels right for you, and the day will become more meaningful and less stressful.
5. You’re Comparing Your Wedding To Everyone Else’s
Before Kevin even gets into this point, just know: Comparison is the thief of joy. In this age of social media and endless scrolls of inspiration at your disposal, it is so easy to compare. But the truth here is that no two weddings will ever be the same. Every wedding has different guest counts, budgets, styles, priorities, and locations. This is how it should be! What works great for one couple may not work for another.
Your wedding is not meant to be a copy-paste of someone else’s; it’s meant to reflect you! Kevin recommends thinking about what makes you happy as a couple in your real life, whether that’s your hobbies, home decor, interests, favorite travel destinations, and let that drive the feel of the wedding. He promises that if you do this, your wedding will feel more like you and truly shine. Comparison can blur your clarity in planning, so focus on creating a celebration that feels truly authentic to the two of you.
6. You’re Stuck In The Pinterest / Instagram Loop
Don’t get stuck in the dreaded doom scroll! Inspiration can be helpful until it becomes overwhelming. If you are finding yourself endlessly scrolling through photos on Pinterest and reels on Instagram, it’s time to take a step back. Go back to points #1 & #5, because you may be second-guessing and comparing! Don’t let celebrity weddings and influencer celebrations shift your focus from inspiration to comparison.
Like we said in point #1, once you’ve made a decision, it’s okay to stop looking. You do not need to review more cake toppers, color palettes, or centerpieces to feel confident in your choices. Trust yourself! Sometimes, the best thing you can do for yourself when planning is to pause, reset, and give yourself permission to be done with that decision.
7. You’ve Forgotten What You’re Celebrating
If you have resonated with any of the above signs of overthinking while wedding planning, it might be because your focus has drifted away from the reason you’re doing all of this in the first place. A wedding is not about your linen colors, candle counts, or signature cocktails – it’s about the two of you choosing each other and celebrating that commitment with the people you love most in life.
At the end of the day, Kevin sees the same thing from couples year after year. The small details fade, but the feeling of the day lasts forever. What matters most is the love you’ll feel at your wedding and the memories you will share. When you start to overthink, just remember why you’re here!
Want to hear how other couples navigated wedding planning in real life? Tune into Fantasy Sound’s Podcast, Now That I’m Engaged, How Do I Get Married? for honest conversations with recent newlyweds, DJ & Jacob Pingue, and Meg Boyd, as they share what they stressed about, what they learned along the way, what they overcame, and what they loved or might have done differently. Sometimes, hearing someone else’s story is the reminder you didn’t know you needed!
Episode #14: Now That I’m Married, How Can I Help Others? with Meg Boyd
Episode #38: Now That I’m Married, How Can I Help Others? with DJ & Jacob Pingue
